The lady that committed the murder is said to be in her twenties, has four kids for her ‘abroad based’ husband, who’s said to be married to another woman over there…while his ‘young’ wife lived with his folks back home. Wouldn’t know what caused the squabbles between the lady and her husband’s younger brother (who got married barely two years back, also yet to have kids) and weapons were used, except that the weapon (a deep stab wound…from a kitchen knife) she used on the guy ensured that he never made it to the hospital alive!
So many ‘ifs and whys’…but the (evil) deed has been done. I have always said that ours is a society where we do not take mental issues serious, unless someone has started dancing naked in the market square. There is just so much psychological stress that people carry around and it takes very little to trigger those…often to alarming consequences.
Even in the social media…have you noticed how some people (even the supposed educated ones) go ballistic in matters of minor disagreement? Such that you needn’t be told that your saving grace (from a physical blow from them) is probably the internet -shielding you.
There’s so much psychological stress in this environment and it’s scary…just imagining that the next person you might want to ‘run mouth’ with is actually a candidate for a ‘home,’ yet he/she roams the streets free and probably seen as sane-until he/she has ‘acted.’
A stressful environment (especially the big cities) like ours should not risk having professions that deal with mental health take ‘the back seat.’ Those should actually be the ‘busiest’ in the health sector…as most of us do not even realise that we are ‘quarter to snapping.’
I suggest the government and interested bodies begin to reach out to stakeholders(on mental health) for a partnership on how to embark on some enlightenment campaigns (at public places) bordering on anger/stress management, and most importantly…the need to recognise that you should seek help when your attitude, actions and utterances are beginning to surprise even you.
It’s just so disheartening that a lot of our struggles are shrouded in secrecy out of sheer ignorance and the penchant to always seem ‘ok’ to outsiders but the reality of life is such that nobody is ‘ok’ all the time. People even hide their handicapped children in this environment… rather than seek information on how to help these kids maximise their existence.
Some years back, a relative came into the country with her ten-year-old son and they were meant to travel down to the South East by air, as we got to the airport, the commotion was so much that the little boy(in his innocence) muttered “everybody here is angry”…that utterance never left my subconscious. We as a people need help more than we realise. It just takes very little for us to snap and it is not normal.
Abroad, people check themselves into ‘homes’ (for professional help)-until their stress (whatever the nature) level comes down. We are so unkind to ourselves in this environment that even the ‘afflicted’ stigmatises him/her self.
Certain situations of life ‘can’ and ‘should’ stress anybody and being affected by such issues hasn’t spelt madness for anybody (and your enemies are not after you) yet…it’s nature’s way of telling you that you need to talk to somebody, that you need help…and getting yourself to recognise this shows that you are still in control of your issues. Let’s begin to be kind to ourselves; please…it is the only way that our society can get better.
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